I believe in a collaborative approach to therapy, based on a foundation of open and honest communication, wherein an environment of safety and trust can be built. In addition to an honest and genuine interaction, the therapeutic alliance thrives on immediacy, compassion, empathy, and unconditional positive regard. This theoretical orientation is often referred to as Humanistic, Rogerian, or Person Centered.  

 

Like many other therapists, I also utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) when appropriate. I realize, however, that human beings and our experiences are much more complex, and viewing therapy solely from a standpoint of changing thoughts and behaviors can be limiting. It is important to examine our choices, maladaptive thinking, dysfunctional behavior, or negative coping styles. While this is true, we often face events in life that have nothing to do with any of these. Such is the case for trauma and loss.  

 

At times, our wounds are so deep and painful that trying to think our way out or recalling where we went wrong in our decision making may become more damaging. For these types of issues, I believe it is imperative to take a gentle approach focused on self care and acceptance. In some cases, therapies that require a very specific protocol and specialized training are very effective - such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) or hypnotherapy.

 

Using the metaphor of walking up a path to understand the journey of processing loss and trauma, I imagine a point in the path where an individual is tempted to look back and see how far they have come. At this point in therapy, I witness individuals improve their ability to extract meaning from even painful circumstances.  This work utilizes elements of Logotherapy and involves a great amount of existential examination.

 

Another theme I often run into is the exploration of one’s “place” within the family of origin, in the current family, and ultimately within society. This concept of “belonging” is a primary focus in an Adlerian approach, and it really helps people examine relationship patterns, while also examining areas such as birth order. This path is often very helpful for individuals who want to improve their parenting style and, ultimately, help their own children achieve a sense of belonging and adequacy.

 

I have been told that in therapy with me, no stone is left unturned. Just as Gestalt therapy focuses on “the whole” person, my ultimate goal is to achieve “whole therapy.” With dedication on the part of you, the client, we can do everything in our power to help you live your very best life, at your highest level of functioning as possible.